О модном направлении рассуждает Сара Сапора, которая знает все о личностном росте и хорошем самочувствии. Ее можно найти в тренажерных залах Лос-Анджелеса и в поисках приключений в поношенных ковбойских сапогах.
"I could not, at any age, be content you take my place by the fireside and simply look on. Life was meant to be loved. Curiosity must be kept alive. One must never, for whatever reason, turn his back on life." — Eleanor Roosevelt How are you embracing life today? Are you sitting by the fire quietly or diving deep and completely into your life? Into these beautiful chances we are granted every day to love a blooming life of possibility? Take the jump. Know you are loved. Know you are supported. Know the Universe has your highest good in mind. Know that you kick ass and the names if you let yourself!! Be bold. Do it. This the only "today" you have. Tomorrow is another "today" and this day will be gone. Do they waste any precious moment wishing you were thinner or prettier or better. No. Just be you. BE YOU. There is only one of you on this planet. Own your unique story. It's yours for the taking!! Pic by @nicthephotochic with the best jeans ever by @torridfashion #BeGreater #plussize #celebratemysize #honormycurves #goldenconfidence #selflove #selfcare #weighlossjourney #personalgrowth #plussizefashion #torridinsider #psblogger
В последнее время очень много разговоров идет о любви к своему телу. Но как это понимать? Взять и в один момент перестать замечать свои недостатки и начать восхищаться изгибами, как, например, понравившимся платьем? Все это ерунда.
Чтобы понять это, у меня ушло очень много времени.
Но я узнала, что истинная и глубокая любовь к моему телу вытекает из уважения. Это не только постоянная привязанность, которая является тем, кем я действительно всегда была для себя. Вместо этого она возрождается из идеи и практики таких понятий, как честь и восхищение.
"One day you will realize the things that defined your past and put you in a small, limited box no longer need to define your future. You will realize that CHANGE IS POSIBLE. You will realize that the power has been in your all along. It was simply a question of turning it on and getting out of our own way. One day you will realize that the things you felt made you broken and bruised are actually the things that make you beautiful. On this day, you will know what it means to FEEL FREE." I have held on to limiting beliefs about myself for most of my adult life. I believed I wasn't good enough. I believed I wasnt lovable. I believed it wasn't enough to just need be good and successful at my job, I had to PROVE to everyone. I have fought ever fight with myself trying to show the world, and myself, that I was a valuable person. I've had broken hearts. Challenges. Setbacks. I've had bruises that I was afraid no man would ever love me enough to see past. But I know now that ALL of that was wrong. That was my fear talking. That nasty voice in my head that I allowed to dictate my self-respect for years. By listening to my Fear Voice, I have kept myself in a box. No more. I know better now. I forgive myself for the behaviors of my past-- they do NOT need to define me today and tomorrow. THE ONLY PERSON I HAVE TO PROVE ANYTHING TO IS MYSELF. Guess what? I'm still single as hell. But guess what? I'm doing me. I'm not scared of how a lack of partner defines me anymore. I'm so busy getting to know Sarah right now I'm not even sure a partner would be a good idea! My point is... I hope you ALL realize the THERE IS POSSIBILITY IN YOUR LIFE and that possibility is NOT limited by what you did or did not do in the past. It is limited only by your beliefs in what the future can be. Slay, sister!! Top and jeans courtesy of @torridfashion. Love you guys! Photo by @nicthephotochic #BeGreater #greaterat40 #spiritjunkie #selflove #selfcare #personalgrowth #plussizefashion #torridinsider #weighlossjourney #honormycurves #goldenconfidence #daretowear #skorchstyle #celebratemysize
В плане внешности у меня было все в порядке.
Не буду драматизировать. У меня был довольно удивительный и большой срок службы до сих пор. Я благодарна людям, местам и вещам, которые сформировали меня. Но, оглядываясь назад, понимаю, что это всегда было не то, чего я действительно хочу. Я была в постоянных поисках того, чего не знала.
If someone asked why have a turned my life upside down? I'd show them this and say "my smile." If they asked me if I missed fancy jobs with a six-figure salary, that kept me locked behind a desk for fifteen hours a day chasing someone else's dream while my own self-care went out the window, I'd say... "but I have my smile back." You can be alive, walking on this earth, dying on the inside. Watching time pass you by. That was me. And I didn't even know it. The picture on the left was at the highest point of my weight at over 350 lbs. On the right is from last week. The weight is not that different folks, I'm at 313 lbs now. That's not a huge loss. Certainly not in six months. But I don't care. I am slowly recreating my life in a way that brings me joy and finds me actually LIVING and not sitting on the sidelines. I am MOVING again and getting stronger. Here's an example of how I do things differently. Yesterday, I was frustrated in my personal life. I woke upset. So I felt my feelings, engaged in positive self-talk to pivot towards love. And then I allowed a friend to hold space for me while I verbally talked through what I was processing. After, I sat down on the floor, bathed in sunlight, played a meditation song and sat for 12 minutes while tears of sadness and joy flowed down my face. "Universe, I need your help now to guide me towards a more loving voice. I'm feeling fear because of XX and I ask for your help in taking that from me. I am grateful for your guidance. I am grateful for the gifts you've given me; I am willing to see things differently." I recited my personal mantra, and while I did the music changed to Kelly Clarkson's Stronger. And I smiled from the inside out. And I raised my hands up in the air and stretched and breathed deep. I said "enough," and then I prepared lunch and moved on without being held back. In the past? I would have stayed in bed all day, not eaten a single thing, segregated myself from friends and then binge ate Domino's late at night before bed. For me, THIS is a tangible example of how I am becoming a more healthy woman. Inside and out. This is #BeGreater in practice. This is how I will take my life back. #selflove
There can only be one You. Isn't it a wondrous thing that the same Universe that created the mountains and the sunsets, that the same Universe that made gravity and tuned the sound of laughter ---- that THAT Universe said, "Hey, I'm going to make a Sarah. She's going to be loyal and stubborn, soft but a bit spirited, independent and irreverent. The world needs one of her in it..." Isn't that pretty insane? That the Universe decided that it needed one of YOU in it to be a better place? Your job, every day, is to show up. Show up for life. You only get one go around. You only get one body. You get a hundred chances every single day to be grateful, to be kind, to be true. Take at least a few of them! I am 38 years old. I have spent many years trying to figure out who I am, to fill the shoes of the kind of person I thought I NEEDED to be in order to be valuable. Now I'm just me. And that me IS valuable. I know this now. Be your own kind of Beautiful. Like this @torridfashion shirt says! If you tried to be beautiful in any other way--- in any other way than what you naturally are because you THOUGHT that your own beauty wasn't needed or wasn't good enough or wasn't special enough--- then you'd be telling the Universe you know better than it. And I guarantee you don't. You dont ave to be for everyone. Be for yourself. Be fully you. PS- my mom dislikes this smile. She calls it my "fly catcher" smile cause my mouth is so wide open. What she doesn't realize, is nine times out of ten when I'm taking pictures I'm literally laughing out loud. And this is what happens. Lord knows, I have tried and wished that I could "be sexy" in pictures and "look hot" and be alluring and mysterious and shit. It's never going to happen. This is me. This is what I'm going to be. I'm going to be silly. I'm going to be smiling in some way where my face makes weird shapes. Sometimes, I try something new and @nicthephotochic she goes "just be you, stop!" and I am reminded that is my job to be me. Just like it is your job to be you. ❤❤ Thank you to @torridfashion for the outfit. #BeGreater #spiritjunkie #selflove #selfcare #personalgrowth #plussizefashion #torridinsider
У меня болели колени, чувствовалось постоянное давление в нижней части спины.
И тогда я решила пересмотреть, что значит для меня любовь.
Эмоциональная Сара говорила во мне:
Я не могу ходить пешком и выйти на долгую прогулку со своей собакой, так как боли не дают мне делать это.
Однако рациональное мышление считало иначе:
Как ты можешь мириться с тем, что твое тело физически ограниченно? Начни больше двигаться, больше заниматься физическими упражнениями и улучши состояние своего тела.
Или, например, вопрос употребления пищи.
Импульсивная Сара в таких случаях сразу начинала закипать:
Неудачи в личной жизни можно забыть только в час ночи съедая сыр чеддер, потому что я чувствую себя одинокой.
Однако разум говорил обратное:
Что нужно съесть, чтобы была польза? Нужно прекратить использовать пищу в качестве эмоционального инструмента и средства для успокоения. Тело должно работать на тебя.
For the last few weeks, as my apartment has been under intense construction, I've simply been doing "the best I can." Has it been ideal? Far from it. Have I made optimum choices? Not always. Have I stayed committed to myself the in the ways I can? 100%. At a previous time in my life, I might have used these few weeks of obstacles to derail me. How many times have you "dieted" and then given up when things weren't perfect? This is why a commitment to wellness and health has to be a LONG term arch in your life. There is no failure. The only "failure" would be to abandon your path. Does the path wiggle? Hell yes!! Does it twist and turn? Yes!! Do you have weeks where things are hard and you gain a pound or two? Yes!!!! Are any of these things signs of your weakness or of you're being a failure in life? No!!!! This is not a black and white journey. This is not a choice each day to either be "pefect" or "wrong." It is a constant weaving and walking forward. Learning every moment along the way. And as long as you keep growing and learning, you will find yourself on a path of progression. Love is all there is. Obsticals are opportunities for growth. They are divine moments where you feel like the Universe is conspiring against you. But really, it is the Universe giving you, literally handing you, a chance to stretch your legs and stretch your soul and discover something. Coming soon to the blog are the lessons I learned about my health and weight loss journey when I had a f*cked up kitchen for two weeks. Sat nam, my friends. ❤ Photo by @nicthephotochic wearing an outfit by @torridfashion #BeGreater #spiritjunkie #weighlossjourney #selflove #selfcare #workinprogress
Вопрос любовных дел тоже отходил на задний план.
Вредная Сара, как обычно, выдержкой не отличалась:
Нет, я снова и снова буду наступать на одни и те же грабли. И пусть это мне не приносит ничего хорошего…
Рациональное мышление рассуждало так:
Как ты можешь отдавать себя отношениям, которые ничего хорошего тебе не приносят? Нужно иметь четкое представление о том, что тебе нужно, быть честной в выборе своих желаний и потребностей и откалибровать твое определение отношений.
И поэтому я приняла решение перестроить свою жизнь. И каждое изменение, которое произошло с тех пор и будут случаться в будущем подогреты лишь одним: любовью к жизни и к себе.
37 was a hard ass year. The low times were *really* low... But somewhere along the line I decided that I was ready for my life to be better. The seed had been planted that summer before — in June of 2015 — when I sat next to my mom in the hospital, while my dad sat in a different hospital — but it would take another half a year for me to be ready. I'm stubborn. I mean, anyone who knows me know that I like to do things in my OWN sweet time. But anyone who knows me also knows, when I set my mind to something, it's Game On. And somewhere this year I decided to set my mind to getting my own life back. Getting my smile back. I can't even begin to quantify to you how much my quality of life has improved since I made the decision to put my health and mind first. I have just scratched the surface as to what I will uncover and learn as I keep on keeping on with my @GreaterAt40 journey and my personal commitment to living a more healthy and balanced life. In the past, I have spent so much time and so much energy trying to prove things to other people. But when I was doing that... I'm certain I was really trying to prove things to myself. I am done proving. I am done with holding up the sign and saying "See me! See me!" to people. I am done proving that I have value and proving that I have worth. Now I am just going to live in that truth instead. I have value. I have worth. When I look at the gal on the left, I see myself. I see myself with compassion and forgiveness. I see myself burdened down. I see myself trying... I don't hate myself and where I have come from. She is me. She is my shadow. She is the physical embodiment of fear I have felt... I guess what I am simply trying to say is... that I am grateful. I am grateful that I have been given the time and the means to work on self-improvement. I am grateful that I have forced myself to look at my pain, to name it and to lay it on the table and to work through it. I am grateful that I am stronger today then I was five months ago. And I am grateful that, five months from today I will be stronger then I am right now. #greaterat40 #personalgrowth #selflove #spiritjunkie #theuniversehasmyback #weighlossjourney
Я постоянно учусь, но это еще недостаточно, но я должна уважать себя, делая поступки, которые будут приближать меня к осуществлению задуманного. Нужно быть максимально честной с самой собой и относиться к своему прошлому с пониманием и прощением.
Последние полгода я работаю над собой и становлюсь более сильной и нужной.
Я расширила свое понятие Бодилав (body love).
Моя любовь к себе определяется сотнями маленьких появления внимания, которые помогают поддерживают меня и помогают оставаться в строю.
И поэтому я вас оставляю с одной мыслью. Вы, наверное, тоже много слышали о бодипозитиве. И все учат, как он должен выглядеть и как вы должны действовать.
Today is my five month Fit-iversary. (Pic on the left was December, 2015. On the right, a few weeks ago.) My first workout with my trainer was on April 29... In order for me to really love myself, I have to make sure I stay peaceful with who I was before I began this chapter of my life. I have to not demonize myself. Or blame myself. Or hate myself. I don't. To any of that. Who I have been in my life made me the person standing here right now. I took care of myself the best I could then. Now... I do things differently. @thebachbook recently shared a video where he reminded us that we will never become the person we are born to be if we hold onto the identities that no longer serve us. When I see the quality of my smile now, when I think about who I am and who I want to become, I realize it is time to release a whole bunch of self-identifiers I once depended on to allow room for some different ones to bloom. I'll share more on this later. I'm busy today. But I felt like sharing just a few words. ❤❤ #greaterat40 #weighlosstransformation #weightlossjourney #gettinghealthy #selflove #selfcare
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